If you haven’t heard about them, pain letters are a brilliant way to reach inside an organization and show key decision makers that you understand their pains (the real problems they’re facing) and have the experience and skill set to help solve them.
Although it can be challenging as an outsider to identify the real problems facing an organization, it’s often just as difficult to articulate your own real pains as an insider. Trouble is, it’s easy to waste a lot of time, energy and money when you’re not sure what your real problems are.
So here’s what to do: Use the questions below as a guide, then quickly write yourself a bulleted pain letter describing your pains. You’ll gain tremendous clarity on the real problems you’re facing – and you’ll be better equipped to see your pain from the perspective of an outsider.
I get it. It’s frustrating.
You’re a respected leader. You do the right thing. You research your options. You seek out wise counsel. And you agonize over key decisions to ensure great outcomes.
Yet somehow your choices aren’t having the impact you had hoped for – and you’re not sure what’s missing.
Here are 3 reasons why your choices may not be creating impact, and what to do about it:
Staying in control of your schedule isn’t easy – especially when you’re stressed out, pressed for time, or dealing with multiple deadlines and the demands of others.
But let’s face it: Sometimes the saboteur is you.
If you’ve ever created a great agenda for your day but found yourself doing something completely unrelated when you actually sat down to work, then you know exactly what I mean.
Having your agenda hijacked by someone else is bad enough, but when you’re the main culprit, the loss of control is even more demoralizing. But rather than play the blame game (haven’t you had enough of that?), let’s focus on solutions to the problem.
Here are 3 quick tips you can immediately put into practice to regain control of your schedule and stop hijacking your own agenda.
Effective leaders pay attention to how well they’re managing themselves, because they know that when the first car in the train gets derailed, it’s not long before the entire train jumps off the tracks.
Here are 3 signs that you’re not managing yourself effectively (and how to fix it):
- Ignoring Your Rituals: Mature executives and elite performers share this in common: They both rely heavily on rituals. Your rituals, which may include an early morning run, a time of meditation, a refocusing on your vision statement, or a nightly review of next day priorities, are the deliberately cultivated habits that give your life stability, structure and stamina. Ignoring your rituals is a red flag that you’re not managing yourself effectively, so if this behavior describes you – stop what you’re doing and make sure you’re fully aware of the why behind what’s crowding out your ritual. Perhaps you’ve been operating in fear mode and you need to confront your fears head on. Or maybe you’re in a time of major transition and you need to modify your rituals to better fit your new circumstances. Or it could just be that everyday life has overwhelmed you, and you need a reminder of why your rituals are important to you. Whatever the reason, take your rituals seriously and get back on track. You’ll be the first to thank yourself that you did.
Have you ever had your life turned upside down by a radical change that you initiated?
It may have been a good change, or an unpleasant one which just had to be done. Either way, I’m willing to bet that somewhere in the middle, you almost lost it. Or you did lose it – and you barely managed to regain control. You had come too far to turn back, but you didn’t know how long you could keep going – or whether you even wanted to.
I’ve been through many of these personally-initiated changes, such as starting a new business, leaving or starting a job, moving to another country (and coming “home”), and I’ve discovered a pattern that I’d like to share with you – a pattern that you may find helpful in your current or soon-to-be change initiative.
I call this pattern the “3 Cs of Change.” Keep reading to see which stage best describes where you’re at right now.
I started my first day by getting thrown for a loop. Literally.
It was the mid 90’s, and I had just signed up for my first Aikido class in Japan. I didn’t yet speak Japanese, so the teacher knelt on the ground and motioned to me to grab his arm. Then he threw me to the ground. Over. And over. And over.
All I remember from the rest of that day is that I left with too many bruises to count, and a fierce determination to go back and do it again, because I knew that it would keep on hurting until I learned how to fall.
Well, I did keep going back, and I did learn how to fall. And the insights I gained from that experience have served me well as a leader for nearly twenty years – because even though the throws and bruises of leadership may not be physical, they still happen, and they still hurt.
So here are five reasons why learning how to fall is important for leaders:
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