The 1 Word That’s Holding You Back

There’s a word that you’ve been using, and it’s time to let it go. Time to erase it from your vocabulary.

You’re not the only one who uses it. I do, too. We all do. But it’s holding you (and me) back.

It comes up in conversation whenever we talk about our deepest dreams and aspirations. And it’s almost always said with a sigh – a wistful and defeating release of air from the lungs.

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So what’s the word?

The word is “Someday,” as in, “Someday I’m going to…”

Just think about the last time you said it or heard it. For me, it happened just a few days ago. A friend of mine shared a magnificent dream that he wanted to pursue – a wonderful dream that’s entirely doable. But then he used that word, “Someday.” And he said it with that wistful sigh that always seems to tag along.

But someday is more than a wistful word loaded with longing. It’s a glass ceiling that’s meant to be shattered, and it’s preventing you from taking hold of your future.

Here are three reasons why “someday” is holding you back:

  1. Someday will never appear on your calendar. Someday can’t be scheduled, and you can’t use it to make a reservation. It’s a mythical day that only exists between “once upon a time” and “never” – a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. When everyday is never the right day to begin moving towards your dream, then today will never become the someday you’ve been waiting for.
  2. Someday lets you off the hook, but it doesn’t let you out the door. Someday is a safe way to express your passion and receive affirmation from others, but it’s also a trap. Because even though you can’t be held accountable to someday, the door is still closed – and you’re the only one with the key. When someday is your plan, anyone can see that you won’t make it out the door.
  3. Someday is a leaky bucket. Someday can’t hold the weight of your expectations, and you can’t pour your passion into it. Someday isn’t a day you can bank on, and it’s not a retirement account that you can draw from when you reach a certain age.  Let’s face it, you either will pursue your dream, or you won’t. Just be clear that someday is not a plan; it’s a wish. And wishes will get you somewhere, but they rarely take you anywhere.

So consider letting go of someday, the word that can’t, and won’t, get you where you want to go. Consider taking yourself more seriously. You deserve it.


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